Individual Therapy
Written by Michael LeFevre
Sunday, 15 May 2011 06:21

My view of therapy starts with the assumption that the relationship between the client and the therapist is foundational to any progress.  If our relationship – our interactions, conversations, and sense of connection – is not working, then you won’t make any progress towards your goals.

I work with a variety of issues, but I find that most of my clients are dealing with the stress of their everyday lives.  Some people react with depression and sadness, others with anxiety and fear, and still others with anger and rage, but the root question is the same: How can I deal with the stresses of my life in a more reasonable and manageable way?

What you can expect in an individual therapy sessionA therapy session is a very unique kind of conversation. Unlike conversations with your friends, there is no give and take in therapy – you don’t have to ask about me or take care of me during the session. I am there for you, to support you in achieving your goals.

You can talk about whatever you want during the session: how things are going in your life, stories about significant things that happened in your past, or thoughts and feelings that are coming up for you in the moment. While you are talking, I will be making sure that I understand what you are saying – both the words that you are saying, and the feelings that you are having while you speak.

As I listen to your words, I will try and focus your attention on a couple of things that often get overlooked in our busy lives: our bodily reactions and our inner or subconscious thoughts and feelings. I will ask you to pay attention to your body as you tell a particular story: Are you holding your breath? Is there a tension in your belly or tightness in your chest? Identifying these sorts of bodily cues will help us then look at what sorts of things you may not be saying.  These unspoken, and often unfelt, thoughts and feelings are markers – signposts that guide us on the path towards discovering our truth.

Benefits of Individual Counseling People who work with me often say that they feel more confident and happy in their lives. Their troubles don't magically disappear, but rather they feel better able to deal with the issues that inevitably arise. Also, many clients say that they have a better understanding of themselves and the patterns that are holding them back in their lives. Finally, clients talk about feeling more in control of their lives, like they are able to manage their fears and anxieties with greater awareness and ease.

Some of the issues I help clients work through I work with a variety of issues with a diverse set of clients. Here are some of the issues you might work through with me:

  • Stress at work
  • Relationship struggles
  • Feelings of anxiety and/or fear
  • Sense of depression and/or helplessness
  • Life transitions: 
    • Becoming a parent
    • Losing your job
    • Relationship endings (divorce, breakup)
    • Moving away to college
    • Having your teenager leave the home ("empty nest")
    • Changing careers
    • Getting married

If you have questions or are interested in starting individual counseling, please Contact Michael for more information.  I offer a free 30-minute phone consultation for anyone that would like to explore the possibility of coming to counseling.