Written by Michael LeFevre
Sunday, 15 May 2011 06:24

One thing that I have heard from fathers over and over again: until you hold your child in your arms, you have no idea what it is like to be a father.

I couldn't agree more.

Holding my son for the first time was a life changing experience for me.  Something shifted in my thinking that forced me to look at the world in a different way -- I could no longer just think about myself, but now I had this other being who depended on me for love, affection, and protection.

Individual Therapy, CounselingWhether we had a great father for a role model or not, fatherhood is tough.  No getting around it.  Not only do you have the added responsibilities of taking care of a baby, you may have to renegotiate your relationship with your wife or partner, balance being a dad with going to work and supporting your family financially, or face the fact that you won't be getting as much sleep as you are used to.

If there is one thing that I have learned in my own journey to fatherhood, it is that you cannot do it alone. In ancient times, the baby was raised with the direct support of the parents, grandparents, extended family, and the wide support of the tribe.  If you were struggling, you had plenty of other fathers to turn to for help.

These days, we are lucky if we have family in the same state, and dads are realizing that they need to look beyond the traditional methods of gathering support.  Some men are looking to men's groups or new fathers's groups, and others are choosing to find someone that they can trust to help them through the difficult times.

I am here to help.

As a father, I have faced my own battles welcoming a child into my life, and I know the difficulties that it entails.  As a therapist, I have been trained to listen deeply to what is going on and to offer guidance to help you cope more effectively with the particular challenges you are facing.  Both of these roles can help you achieve your goals as a father.

Some dads want ongoing support to feel like they can make it from week to week, and others just want help getting through the current crisis.  Some men want the support of a group with other men or other fathers to help them feel not so alone in their struggles, while others prefer to work one on one with a counselor. Whatever you feel like you need to help you become a better man and a better father, I want to support you on that journey.

Contact me for more information, or check out the ongoing Inspired Fatherhood group.